Wednesday, June 29, 2011

31 Days of Hope, Victory, Freedom, Purpose, Love, and Wellness

 I would like to challenge you for the next 31 Days to commit to reading our blogs....I believe the saying "garbage in...garbage out" is true, what we choose to focus on, listen, read, and watch goes into our minds and hearts. This is an opportunity to fill our minds and hearts with hope, victory, freedom, purpose, love, and wellness!

God is VERY intentional. God has a plan and purpose for each of us during the next 31 Days!
Please join us!
31 Days of Hope- Sheryl Griffin at A Scarlet Cord of Hope::

31 Days of Victory- Monique Zackery at Finding Me in You::

31 Days of Freedom- Jennifer Lain at Parent Passion::

31 Days of Purpose- Carla Hendricks at Sojourner of Truth::

31 Days of Love- Beckah Shae at

31 Days of Wellness: Mind, Body & Spirit- Michelle Discavage at

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

31 Days of Hope....Questions For You

In preparation for our 31 Days...of HOPE I would like to involve YOU and ask a few questions. Don't feel obligated to answer every question (unless, of course, you want to). You can post them here or email me directly Share as much or as little as you would like. Please let me know if its OK to share your first name or if you prefer to be anonymous (in the event that I comment on your answer or question on a blog).

1.  What does HOPE mean to you?

2. Is there an area in your life that you need HOPE?

3. How do you share HOPE with others?

4. Is there a verse or a song that reminds you of HOPE?

5. Is there a person or story in the Bible that exemplifies HOPE to you?

6. Is there a time in your life that you felt hopeless?

7. Actions speak louder than do you *see* HOPE in action

8. Using the five Love Languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and would you show HOPE to someone (if you know your main love language-how would you like someone to speak HOPE to you)?

9. Do you believe there is always HOPE? (why or why not)

10. Is there a topic within HOPE that you would like to be encouraged or inspired by on this blog within the next 31 Days?

I am excited to see all that God has in store for this event!  I look forward to hearing from you and I encourage you to check in with the other blogs and be encouraged and inspired by them as well, within the next 31 Days!

Thursday, June 9, 2011

31 Days of Hope

I will post a blog on the topic of HOPE for 31 days, the entire month of July!  I have joined in this inspirational event with four other women.  We have each picked a topic and we are ready for the challenge!  I hope that you will hold me accountable and read my blogs.  I also encourage you to stop by the other blogs and be encouraged!

I have a feeling God is up to something BIG and I am excited! 

Please check back often and feel free to comment or email!

The other blog links are:

31 Days of Wellness::Mind. Body. Spirit. - Chasing the Divine (Michelle Discavage at

31 Days of Parent Passion (Jennifer Laine at 

31 Days of Love (Beckah Shae at

31 Days of Victory- Finding Me in You (Monique Zackery at

Friday, June 3, 2011

Unplanned Choices

I recently read a book titled, Jessica Lost: A Story of Birth, Adoption & The Meaning of Motherhood . I am always intrigued with memoir's, biography's and autobiography's. I was drawn to the raw emotions the authors, Bunny Crumpacker and J.S. Picariello share about their life and experience within the world of adoption, both from the view point of the mother and the child.

I have friends who have been adopted and know many who have chosen adoption.  I believe every situation is unique and no adoption process is exactly the same.  Similar to giving birth; no two women will have the exact same experience. The main difference in adoption is the intention. You can not have an "oops" baby when you adopt.   

If you have read my book A Scarlet Cord of Hope you know part of my story involves abortion. While abortion wasn't my choice, it was the decision that was made, and I will always have regret, however, I know that I am forgiven and I have finally found a place within my heart to forgive myself as well. 

There was a part in the book when Bunny (the mother) seems to be comparing adoption and abortion and she comments that those who choose abortion do not have the lingering pain and emotions that women who place children up for adoption do.  I realize she is writing from her own personal experience, so she could not possibly understand the guilt, shame, and lingering pain that also stays with the choice of abortion. 

It is only by the grace of God that I am able to share my story and offer the hope that I have found after my abortion.  Any unplanned pregnancy that may result in adoption, abortion, or keeping the baby, has the same ability to create long term effects that linger and may take years to overcome.

Sometimes the decision to keep the baby results in financial struggles, custody battles, and letting go of your dreams. Abortion is a decision that never leaves you free either.  You may not have the due date etched in your mind, you may not know the sex of the baby, however you have enough knowledge to know there is life growing inside you and you never forget that day. While abortion may appear like a "quick fix" and then you move on; let me tell you, it's not that easy. While I can agree with Bunny's emotions that adoption does leave you with potential guilt, shame, and pain, you at least know that your baby is wanted and will be welcomed into a loving home.

It was interesting to read the view point from the birth mother and the child she gave up, and their journey that led them to connect forty two years later.They were able to build a strong healthy relationship as time allowed for healing and closure to their respective emotions and questions. 

If you or someone you know is dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and you would like information or someone to talk to please email me at

There is always HOPE!